When you stop waiting for your partner to take responsibility for their share of the challenges, your relationship becomes instantly more loving. Let me explain…
Someone once told me that I am a strange mix of sweet-kindergarten-teacher meets dominatrix.
Yep. That about sums me up!
While most of the time I prefer to hold my clients in a sweet bubble of love and compassion, sometimes I need to turn on the dominatrix and hold them to higher standards.
If you’re like most humans, you likely loooove to stay comfortable, even (and especially) if discomfort is what feels familiar to you. When we are triggered and at our worst we can throw the craziest tantrums and do the dumbest things. Why? A part of us still doesn’t know how to act in a way to get the things we desire most. So we resort to child-like behavior instead of choosing to learn how to be an adult and ask for and get what we want in a healthy way.
Even when deep down you know, the only way to live the love story you desire may involve a bit of change 😉
While my clients are incredible leaders in their own right, at the beginning of our work together, they often struggle with directing too much of their energy towards how their partner needs to change.
“If only they would be more/less XYZ…”
A familiar story, right?
Well, let me tell you hon, that’s not how healthy, loving, flourishing relationships work.
There is not 1 pie where in any given situation it is 80% their fault and 20% your fault. Nope. Every situation that arises between you both has 2 pies: 1 that is 100% theirs and 1 that is 100% yours.
Own your pie.
If you want to master the art of peace, fun, and reconnecting quickly as a team, then you need to take personal responsibility for your role in every situation that comes up.
To do this, you need to learn how to put your ego aside, REALLY learn how to listen, and accept responsibility for what you could have done differently.
Trust me, I know from personal and professional experience how challenging this can be, which is why I know how important it is for me to tap into my inner dominatrix and hold my clients to a higher standard for themselves and for the relationship.
If you want to feel more connected than two peas in a pod, then you need to pull up your big-kid pants and do the simple, yet necessary work. It can be awkward and challenging, but you are an adult.
And I believe in you.
I’ve seen some of the most incredible leaders from hollywood celebrities to high level executives struggle with this in their relationship.
Those who invested in support and overcame the old programming now have the love they dreamed of because they’re no longer self-sabotaging it away.
Does this kind of behavior sound familiar at all? The good news is, you can overcome it and create your perfect love story a lot easier and faster than you may think, with the right help.
Curious? If you’re ready to be held accountable, guided, and led by a sweet-kindergarten-teacher meets dominatrix, I am here for you.
PM me “HOLIDAY” and we’ll set up a call to talk about how I can whip you into shape…er…I mean…;)